Giving And Taking Trust
Trust can be tricky, and as a writer, I find my self relying on my instinct more and more. Instinct and advice. I’ve had some advice given to me lately and some that I’ve learned on my own regarding trust.
It can be a challenge knowing who to trust, whose advice to trust and when to trust others with your writing. Because sadly, there are people out there that will steal and or destroy confidences.
Always trust your gut and test the waters.
When it comes to finding a Critique Partner or finding a Beta Reader, you need to trust the person you hand your story over to. That said, don’t just hand it over to just anyone. Talk with them a bit first, start off with a short story, poem, query letter or something simple. I never hand my story or synopsis over to anyone I don’t trust. It’s not perfect but knowing will reduce the chance of someone posting your work online without permission.
The same thing goes for services like editing and paid critiques. If the person doesn’t have samples(and even if they do), you can ask for a sample of how they would edit your work by having the first page or two done before agreeing to work with them. This is key, there is nothing worse than paying for a service, technically getting what you paid for only to find out it’s not how you wanted the editing done.
What about advice? I dole out advice and my opinion all the time, I even get paid to do it. Does that make me a professional? Not really. Does it make me right all the time? Ha, no of course not. Nobody can be right all the time. All my advice and information I share is what I’ve learned along the way. Sure it changes and shifts, and I even find better advice, but I never claim to be the be-all-and-end-all of writing wisdom.
Writing advice, (Including publishing, editing, and revising) is all subjective. What works for some may not work for others. That said, never ignore advice, rules, tips, tricks, hints, or anything that others offer. Listen to it and use your instinct to determine if it works for you or not. Taking a poll online to credit or discredit advice given may help, but I see more often than not, it will bring out three types of people/answers.
• Yes! Brilliant advice. Do this, you’re a fool to do otherwise.
• No way! Do the exact opposite, you’re a fool to do otherwise.
• Do what works best for you. (probably suggest to research or read articles)
People are strongly opinionated(No matter the facts) and the majority vote might not even be right. Know your audience, who is giving the advice, find a source from reputable websites to find more information and most of all, trust your instinct.
When in doubt, seek the advice of an industry-specific individual. Peruse blogs of people with credentials and experience. I spend a lot of time researching topics and information for my story, and I wouldn’t cheat myself by taking fly-by-night advice without further researching on my own before(if ever) asking strangers on Facebook or Twitter.
I always do my best to present information with an unbiased approach, after researching and often after finding out the hard way. I’ll never lead anyone astray on purpose for some hidden jealousy-based agenda. Ask me a question, and I’ll answer to the best of my abilities, if I don’t know, I’ll probably research and offer up some articles. Why? Because that’s what I’d want. I want people who ask me questions to feel they can trust me to be as honest as I can.
“Write what you love, and others will love what you write.”